At Keānuenue Pediatrics, our hearts are always with the well-being of your keiki—and that includes how they experience the world around them. Events like the January 6 riots at the U.S. Capitol can feel overwhelming for adults, and they can be especially confusing or distressing for children.

You may be wondering:
“How do I explain this to my child?”
“What if they saw something scary?”
“How can I support them emotionally during confusing times?”

We’re here to help you find the right words and approach, based on your child’s age and developmental stage.

Why These Conversations Matter

Even if your keiki doesn’t bring up what they’ve seen or heard, they’re likely absorbing more than we think—especially with 24/7 access to media and conversations among peers. Talking about difficult events doesn’t cause fear—it helps reduce it by providing reassurance, truth, and context in a developmentally appropriate way.

As pediatricians, we support you in helping your child feel safe, heard, and resilient in an ever-changing world.

Step 1: Ask What They Know

Start with a simple question: “Did you hear anything about what happened?”

This gives you insight into their understanding and emotional state. Some kids may know very little. Others may have seen frightening or inaccurate images online or heard things from classmates.

Step 2: Talk Honestly—In Age-Appropriate Terms

Use clear, simple language that’s tailored to your child’s age.

For Preschoolers (Ages 2–5)

Keep it short and concrete. Preschoolers won’t grasp political details, but they understand right and wrong, fear, and safety.
You might say: “A group of people went into a building when they weren’t supposed to. It was scary, but now the helpers are making things safe again.”

Reassure them that they are safe and that you’re there to protect them.

For School-Aged Children (Ages 6–10)

Expect lots of “why” questions—this age is curious and starting to form their own opinions. Explain the basics clearly, and gently correct misinformation.
Sample conversation:
Parent: “Did you hear what happened in Washington, D.C.?”
Child: “I saw people breaking into a building on TV.”
Parent: “Yes. That was a government building, and some people were very upset about the results of the election. But hurting others or breaking things is never okay, no matter how we feel.”

Be mindful of media exposure—graphic images can have lasting emotional impact. Help them process what they’ve seen, and set boundaries around screen time if needed.

For Teens (Ages 11+)

Teens have greater access to unfiltered information, and they’ll likely discuss events with friends or on social media. Acknowledge their opinions while offering guidance.
Even if they don’t want to talk right away, let them know you’re available.
Try:
“What have you been hearing about everything happening lately?”
“How are you feeling about it?”

Avoid dismissing their emotional reactions, even if they seem intense. Teens are developing their sense of justice, identity, and values—and they need trusted adults to help them sort through it all.

Step 3: Be Clear, Not Vague

Phrases like “some people were upset and did something bad” can confuse kids and make the event feel no different than a playground fight. It’s okay to say things like:

“It was wrong for people to use violence to try and change something. In our country, we solve disagreements through voting and laws, not by hurting others.”

Step 4: Watch for Emotional Signs

Not all kids will open up directly. Be alert for subtle signs of distress, including:

  • Trouble sleeping

  • Headaches or stomachaches

  • Increased irritability or withdrawal

  • Changes in appetite or mood

For children with special healthcare needs or developmental differences, be especially mindful of how they process change and uncertainty. Use visuals, social stories, or simple routines to provide extra comfort and structure.

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Above All: Stay Connected

Children cope best when they feel safe, supported, and loved. By having open, honest conversations—and by modeling calm and compassion—you help your child build resilience in the face of uncertainty.

We believe in you, and we’re here to help. If you’re concerned about your child’s mental or emotional health, please reach out. Our team can offer guidance, connect you with resources, or simply listen.

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