If you’re a parent of a toddler, chances are you’ve got potty training on the brain. For me, it was one of those milestones I couldn’t wait to try—finally testing out all the advice I’ve been giving parents for years.

Let me tell you: it’s humbling. And messy. But also really rewarding. Here’s what helped us with Wren, and what might help you, too.

When’s the Right Time?

There’s no magic age, but most kids are ready sometime between 21 and 36 months. Signs your child might be ready:

  • Can tell you they have to go (or have already gone)
  • Understands what a potty is for
  • Enjoys sitting on the potty
  • Can follow basic instructions

Start slow and watch for those cues—every child is different.

Getting Ready

You don’t have to wait for “go time” to start laying the groundwork. Try these:

  • Introduce words like shishi, doodoo, potty, and toilet early (around 18 months works great)
  • Narrate what’s happening during diaper changes
  • Let them observe you using the bathroom (you’ll get used to having a tiny tag-along!)
  • Buy a potty chair and let them explore it
  • Read books, sing songs, and talk about going potty in a fun, low-pressure way
  • Celebrate special underwear as a milestone

The Actual Process

Once you start, here are the basics:

  • Go often—build it into the routine
  • Let them sit without a diaper or pull-up, just to get comfortable
  • Wait to ditch diapers until they stay dry for a stretch (like two weeks)
  • Expect accidents—and don’t punish or shame! Gently explain where shishi or doodoo goes, and involve them in cleanup if they’re willing
  • Keep it positive and praise all progress (even sitting on the potty counts!)

If you’re potty training a boy and teaching him to pee sitting down, have his male role models do the same at first—it reduces confusion.

Set Your Expectations

Most kids take a few months to fully potty train. And nighttime dryness? That can take years. Be patient, stay consistent, and trust the process.

Some families have success with more structured methods like the “3-day method” or elimination communication. If you’re considering one of those, we’re happy to talk through it with you.

Final Tips

  • Keep it light and pressure-free
  • Use sticker charts, songs, or special books as motivators
  • Don’t start during a big transition (like a move or new sibling)
  • Celebrate wins—even if they’re small

Most importantly: Your child will get there. It’s not a race, and it’s not a reflection of your parenting. We promise.

We’re here if you have questions or just need someone to cheer you on. You’re doing a great job—and your keiki will be out of diapers before you know it (though you’ll probably still carry wipes in your bag forever, just saying).

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